Whenever we have expectations that go into something, whether that be a certain product, or an experience, or even something as simple as a cup of coffee, we end up often disappointed. The reality is that no matter how hard we want to love something, it can never match the mental image we automatically create of it. That is to say, it can't match that image if we're hoping or stressing too hard. Some people are natural critics. They already formulate notions about how something "should" be, or what it "must" be like. Once we place restrictions we create an Ideal representation of the thing in our mind.
I found this a lot with the Christmas movies I was trying to watch. I have certain favorites. Whenever I'm watching them, if I'm trying to recapture that experience from the first time I watched it, I'm doomed to be disappointed. Rather if I watch it and just feel nostalgic and enjoy the movie for what it means to me, or how it relates to my life now, well then I'll love it all over again.
We live in a society where we have reviewers constantly painting an image of what something is for us before we even experience it. We have commercials and advertising trying to lure us in, promising something that we will never fully attain. Rather, if we just experience things in the hear and now, we're likely to love that experience. Consider if you will one of the best experiences of your life, no matter what it is. It's very likely that at the moment you experienced that event, you were living completely in the moment, just soaking it in. If you try and re-do the experience, it'll never measure up. Let me share an example . . .
My friends and I met in college while playing video games. We've grown up together loving gaming. One of our mutually favorite experiences was going over to our one buddy's house and playing video games in his basement. At the time we all lived in dorms, and so the idea of getting off campus and plugging into his LAN was fantastic. Now that we're older we still go over there occasionally. Any time that we really try to force in a certain amount of one game or another, or set parameters on recreating this one particular experience we had, it just doesn't work. However, when we just enjoy the idea that we're all getting together to game, like the good old days, then we have a blast.
I want to elaborate on this idea with the constant expectations that seem to be out there surrounding the next gen consoles. For now, just consider experiences you have had with your Real Self and Ideal Self.